by Leanne Campbell, Passion Media Productions.
Is your business suffering from friend sabotage?
As a home business person it is difficult at times to determine if your doing the right thing in your business. This is because often there are not many people around us who support us, understand us and can give us constructive feedback or quite simply that we can trust! Businesses where your the only one in it are sometimes beset by our own worries and self doubt and we need to always work on keeping our views clear on what we are trying to achieve and not on our own negative self concerns. If your self taught in what you do and your always comparing yourself to others with training or better equipment then STOP! you are you and your abilities are yours and as long as your passion to be the best is there then you will always improve! On top of all of those hurdles we often feel the need to ‘help’ our friends within our business and welcome them in without interviewing them to see if they are the best person for the job!
In times of self doubt we sometimes are tempted to go to our friends for help and if they don’t believe in our business then the negative feedback can destroy our positive self image and also cloud our thoughts on what we need to do to grow and improve ourselves and our business. Of course not all friends will do this but there are a lot who mean well but are not of the same mind set and they can shake our self confidence to the point where we no longer believe we can do it and so our business either suffers or fails! To prevent this you either need to work out which of your friends can give you honest feedback with a mindset that you can and will do it or you need to find a network of people in a similar situation who can help you where there is a win win learning/encouraging environment between all of you.
The other area we can let ourselves damage our own business is in having friends help us. This one factor has destroyed many people’s business because most people expect their friends to have their back! The truth is most people only have their own backs. It is difficult to present a professional image if the person assisting you in your work is turning up late to scheduled times, if they don’t pass on contact details to you because they want them for their own interests or if they are unprofessional in attitude and actions. Don’t let this one most common mistake destroy your business!
If you have gone out into the world yourself in business it is up to you to protect yourself. If your business has been effected in any way and your gut instinct is telling you that a friend is sabotaging you in any way then do something about it before it becomes so big there is no recovery from it. Don’t lose your business and your friend because you didn’t protect either relationship when you saw the problems arise. If a friend is accidentally bringing down your confidence levels then decide not to discuss your business with them from now on. For friends working with you already you need to find a diplomatic way of letting them know you don’t need their help any more.
The biggest way a friend can sabotage your business is if you let them. I know this is hard to take but if you were looking at it from the outside you would see how your business and infact you yourself are suffering. Wake up and smell the coffee, see what is really happening…know who you are and develop yourself and your business. Friends can be the biggest hurdle a home business person needs to overcome but it is one of the most necessary! Do your friend and yourself a favor and make sure your healthy, happy and successful. Friends are meant to be friends not business workers. Who are you to go to for a quiet drink when a co worker is annoying you to cool down if your friend is that co worker??? Who do you go out with after a long tiring week of work to get away from it all if your friend is also your work mate??
Set yourself and your friends free so your business can soar!